I don’t get along with my boss because she is stern yet outgoing, and I’m reserved and realistic. What do I do?
I understand completely that you may not always get along with each other. With that being said I in the end don’t care what they think. However, i would enjoy them talking with me during morning meetings. Everyone makes jokes with each other and talks about sports and so on. They don’t talk about the things that interest me so we coexist is a space of anxiety. Though because I’m a bit more reserved than they are, it causes some issues. I want to be part of the team but I don’t fit into their team, nor do they fit in mine. I’m just tired of being an outcast. What should I do to be or feel like I’m part of the team? Regardless, I cannot change who I am.
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Perhaps you would be better suited for another kind of work environment, i.e. somewhere you work more autonomously than with a group of people (as long as you're a self-starter, of course). I've been in almost your exact situation: I worked in an office where I had nothing in common with my co-workers and I was more introverted. As a result, I mostly kept to myself and did my work without talking to many people, and I could not stand that kind of environment. I looked for and found another job where the environment and co-workers were more welcoming and friendly, and I got along with them very well.
I know starting over is tough, especially if you like the kind of work you do, but you can find a new job where you have more in common with your co-workers or you work on your own more often than with a team. Trust me, you'll be much happier.
If you are no t willing to make any effort at the social interactions with team members, then you have to prove yourself valuable by your work contributions so that they don’t care whether you join in the convo about sports.