Every day I feel like I’m losing my sanity. I tell him how I feel, that we need our own place, that I (WE!) need privacy but he is afraid to leave his aunt alone in the Apartment. And he keeps using the excuse that we don’t have the money to move. He’s been saying that for the whole year and we both work!! We have money!! Then his aunt cooks all day for her “side business” but I get home from work and can’t even use the kitchen to eat/cook. By midnight I’m in bed and she’s still cooking. I’m fed up. I feel like a roommate. He spends ZERO time with me, it’s mostly with his aunt or cousins or friends. When he does sit with me it’s him in the same room laughing at Facebook videos. I’m at my end. Tonight I just hopped in my car and left the apartment. I’ve decided to sleep in my car because I cannot take it anymore. Every time I walk into the apt I just feel depressed. Like I’m in a dark place.
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Honestly this is why I got an abortion with my ex
I lasted 4 weeks at my in-laws (they thought we'd be there 6 months, maybe longer) and then just went out and rented an apartment, came home, told my husband we'd a new place to live now and moved out. He came too. It's a gamble but I took it!
He is selfish, immature, thoughtless etc. etc. and everything negative it seems. It's about time he was told that you are now his next of kin - more closely related to him (legally) than any of these other family members.
Perhaps when he hears about your night in the car he might begin to take you seriously but if he doesn't I suggest you start looking for a place of your own and, until you find one, see if you can bunk down with a pal or work colleague. He needs to be made to face reality. I would feel exactly the same as you do now, if I were having to live the way you are living now.
God help you. I don't blame you feeling this way! I hope he does something about it tho.
obviously he IS being immature & selfish.
If you work, where is your money? Hopefully you are not giving all your money to your idiot husband! Look over the budget. What are you doing with your money and what is he doing with his? Find out exactly where the money is going. If you can afford a place leave and if he doesn't follow then leave him.
I feel same sad from hearing you mentioned!
Confront him to move out to your own place even smaller .
If he refuse, push strong , like as you will divorce him bc you can not live like this.
if u work u should be able to rent smth small for yourself. we live once, no need to suffer. if i were u i would move out alone instead of feeling miserable. good luck
I have a short answer - move out. You are being ignored, so if it leads to a relationship issue, it's not a loss.
god isn't real