Long story short, my fiance and I agreed that I would move to his place in MD, after I was finished working in Jersey.
Everything was fine.
Now that I'm here, he's asked me about paying half the rent.
That would be fine with me, only, he's in the military and because he has custody of his child, lives off base but the military pays his rent. I buy all of the groceries. (About 400 a month)
I agreed to pay half, but I don't think it's fair, but I don't want to offend him when I approach him about it.
How do I say it!!??
Update:I want to know more about the relationship aspect.
If his rent is paid in FULL by the military every month, why am I being charged??
I feel like we're engaged roommates.
U just want to know how to approach him without making him feel defensive
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So you're telling me... the military pays his rent in FULL... yet he asks you to pay half the rent? I dunno... just be straight up with him. Mention how money is tight for you, you're buying all the groceries and you're struggling financially and ask him to chip in on the rent or groceries.
Here is the thing tho; to me money is no object if it's for a friend or someone I love... if he HAS the money and won't give it too you... I think you needa have a serious talk with him. If his money is tight tho, then the situation is more complex.
In the worst case, tell him that you guys need to move to a place with cheaper rent; see how he reacts and if he'd be willing to pitch in then
If you pay half the rent, only pay of of the groceries