You send your spouse who is her actual child in to do it for you. There's never a reason someone should have to go mano a mano with an in-law. If your spouse doesn't see a problem here then your issue is with that spouse, not with his/her mother.
I think first you ask yourself if it's going to make any difference in the relationship or situation and what that difference is going to be... then you approach from a *communication* mindset rather than a *confrontational* mindset. In communication you use 'I'-statements, focus on you own experiences and feelings, provide time for the other person to speak, and all those good communication skills.
This is just my opinion but rather than confront her you might be better off just ignoring her, spend less time around her or tell her to mind her own business when she offers a critical opinion. Confrontation just escalates things.
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You send your spouse who is her actual child in to do it for you. There's never a reason someone should have to go mano a mano with an in-law. If your spouse doesn't see a problem here then your issue is with that spouse, not with his/her mother.
Just ignore
Very hard to change people. you can refuse to be abused and manipulated but you can't change her.
i would just stay away from her as much as possible
I think first you ask yourself if it's going to make any difference in the relationship or situation and what that difference is going to be... then you approach from a *communication* mindset rather than a *confrontational* mindset. In communication you use 'I'-statements, focus on you own experiences and feelings, provide time for the other person to speak, and all those good communication skills.
My mother in law was critical and judgmental. Because why? She was ignorant and not too bright, had no idea how to relate to others properly.
I just ignored her, smiled, and went on with my life. I don't engage in drama. Not going to start
Agree with her and it will lower her being critical in the future.
This is just my opinion but rather than confront her you might be better off just ignoring her, spend less time around her or tell her to mind her own business when she offers a critical opinion. Confrontation just escalates things.
You get your hubby to straighten her out.
With a tire iron in one hand and a baseball bat in the other.....