How can I reconcile with fiancé?
We had a big fight over the phone this morning, I broke up and hung up on him and he hasn't tried calling back to apologize. He was upset I went out the night before and didn't call all night. The last straw was he said if I don't love him we can be friends that actions speak more than words of I love yous. This got me very upset for him to not feel I love him after all Ive put into the relationship. I told him it's not working for me and it's too hurtful to continue with and I hung up on him which I know he hates so much when I do but it was hurtful to hear him say I might not really love him and he hasn't called to apologize, like he accepts it's over. Help!!!
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This fight is a test and you guys have both flunked it. Even though you aren't married yet right now you are setting the stage for how it's going to be after you get married.
Get on the phone and call him or just go to where he is and have a talk. Better tactics for your disagreements are in order.
While I can understand his being upset, it certainly doesn't sound like reason to end an engagement. I would think that by this point in your relationship all that trivial bs would be behind you. It might not be that he accepts that it's over, but he's still mad and wants some time to work out his emotions. And, I see no reason being upset he hasn't called you...if you want to talk to him then pick up the phone.
I'm not sure what exactly you want help with. If you dont want it to be over than call him and talk it out. You will need to learn to communicate with someone you are married to or your marriage is doomed.
If you do get back together, I recommend a long engagement. If you can so flippantly break up with him maybe you're not ready to spend the rest of your life with this guy.
Why didn't you just give the man a call. It's not to much to ask. You created this hostility.
i promise you this.......in a healthy marriage there will be fights and disagreements........
to key to a successful resolution is to know how to fight and disagree constructively.....
never make an argument personal......learn to discuss both sides of the issue........
NOW......call him up, ask him over, and have make up sex........