I was very happy when my crush showed up to a restaurant he knew I was going to be at....my friends talked a lot of crap about him, made fun of his hair, made fun of his clothing, threatening to beat him up, called him an A$$hole, and I deserve better. He didn’t do anything wrong at the restaurant. I told couple of my friends on Facebook, what they were doing, talking a lot of crap about him, made me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I explained to them I was very happy to see him I’ve been waiting a very long time to see him, I went to the bathroom to calm down my heart, and I told my friends I hate hearing them talk **** about him (they never met him), I told them they ruined my happiness to see him by talking a lot of crap about him. I told them their behavior was unacceptable. My friend responded she is doing it because she cares about me and doesn’t want me to get hurt like she was hurt my her ex. She feels I would be in the same situation with this guy (her and her ex-different person). I asked her why she feels that way and she didn’t answer my question. By her telling me she’s doing it because she cares about me it sounds like she is talking a lot of crap about him because she “cares” about me and doesn’t want me to be with him. How is talking a lot of crap about someone they don’t know shows they care about me? That doesn’t seem like a real friend woikdndo something like that
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Good, but you should have asked them how they would feel about someone saying those things about them. I think people who talk badly of other or gossip are not worth my time and I don't want to be around them. They're cruel insecure, have poor self esteem and feel better about themselves when they put other people down.
So YOUR FRIEND would rather HURT YOU, before this other guy does.
You need better friends.
Look, it doesn't matter if she cares or not. Well, maybe yeah, she sounds like she cares a **** ton about you. But, if this guy makes you feel happy then, nothing else should matter. Your friends shouldn't be ****-talking someone they've never met. That goes for everyone, not just them. But do remember, anything can happen between you two. She cares enough about what might happen to you. Be careful and prepare yourself for the worst, and even the good. Other than that, it's your choice to be with him or not. Either follow what you feel is right in your heart, and be with him, or listen to your bestfriend.