Children are the greatest good because children are perpetually the future of humankind, human achievement, and human progress, because we are able to find meaning in our lives through children, and because they are the only proven means by which any part of us survives after own deaths. They are our legacies. They are how we last.
It is not true that they are not a burden. They always are a burden. Always. But they are a burden worth carrying and can be our most rewarding burden to carry, if we let it. Burdens aren't bad. Burdens are how we get things done. Burdens are how we become strong. Burdens are even how we love, because when we willingly carry the burden of another and make sacrifices to do so, even extreme sacrifices, that's how we progress — for heavy burdens are always carried toward a goal — and how we grow love in ourselves. With children, we learn that abiding love isn't this rain that happens to falls on us randomly by the accident of our births and chance encounters but is this wellspring that we dig and build and maintain, that love is something we intentionally do and not just something that happens to us, and the fact that children are a burden is integral to that learning, that transcendence in our love.
As for being raised in strictness, I'm not on board with that. Some children need that, but not all children. That's not to say all children don't need their parents to provide boundaries and limits, but "raised in strictness"? No, that's more than that. Not all children are the same, and you would prescribe an extremely oppressive, extremely pedantic method that the lion's share of children don't require and that can even be detrimental to children thriving.
As for respect for elders, I say respect for everyone, except when a person has abused that respect and proven themselves unworthy of respect. That doesn't mean disrespecting that person is called for, nor does it even mean always not acting respectful towards that person is called for. What it means is that when someone has abused you and proven themselves unworthy of respect, they are not owed respect or respect's deference, not categorically, not unquestioningly. This is true no matter how old someone is. If a so-called elder, for example, is abusing a child — physically, sexually, psychologically, or emotionally — a child does not owe that elder any respect, and it's teaching children that they do, that elders always must be respected, that leads to children not feeling empowered to fight back or speak out and so being chronically abused.
totally agree, i was raised in stricness and i can see the world from the other side and now i know why my parents were that strict with me to make a good person out of me
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Children are the greatest good because children are perpetually the future of humankind, human achievement, and human progress, because we are able to find meaning in our lives through children, and because they are the only proven means by which any part of us survives after own deaths. They are our legacies. They are how we last.
It is not true that they are not a burden. They always are a burden. Always. But they are a burden worth carrying and can be our most rewarding burden to carry, if we let it. Burdens aren't bad. Burdens are how we get things done. Burdens are how we become strong. Burdens are even how we love, because when we willingly carry the burden of another and make sacrifices to do so, even extreme sacrifices, that's how we progress — for heavy burdens are always carried toward a goal — and how we grow love in ourselves. With children, we learn that abiding love isn't this rain that happens to falls on us randomly by the accident of our births and chance encounters but is this wellspring that we dig and build and maintain, that love is something we intentionally do and not just something that happens to us, and the fact that children are a burden is integral to that learning, that transcendence in our love.
As for being raised in strictness, I'm not on board with that. Some children need that, but not all children. That's not to say all children don't need their parents to provide boundaries and limits, but "raised in strictness"? No, that's more than that. Not all children are the same, and you would prescribe an extremely oppressive, extremely pedantic method that the lion's share of children don't require and that can even be detrimental to children thriving.
As for respect for elders, I say respect for everyone, except when a person has abused that respect and proven themselves unworthy of respect. That doesn't mean disrespecting that person is called for, nor does it even mean always not acting respectful towards that person is called for. What it means is that when someone has abused you and proven themselves unworthy of respect, they are not owed respect or respect's deference, not categorically, not unquestioningly. This is true no matter how old someone is. If a so-called elder, for example, is abusing a child — physically, sexually, psychologically, or emotionally — a child does not owe that elder any respect, and it's teaching children that they do, that elders always must be respected, that leads to children not feeling empowered to fight back or speak out and so being chronically abused.
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totally agree, i was raised in stricness and i can see the world from the other side and now i know why my parents were that strict with me to make a good person out of me
good manners never go out of style