I fear I may have given him the wrong idea in the past we had a little flings then it kind of died - out of fear/not to mess up around work i think, I stopped emailing him then I get odd emails asking me how am I doing, how my weekend want, if I wanted to go for lunch etc. I always say ok, then I think I send a message that I’m interested on him again (don’t know how but I have a feeling a friend of mine gave him a hint)for whatever reason the "hint" freaked him out, one early morning I got an email saying “Hope you're well. Sorry I've been quiet recently, I know we were meant to go out for drinks recently but I just think it's best if we keep our relationship as just friends. Drinking probably won't help that!

It'd still be nice to go for lunch sometime if you fancy..”

which I reply saying ‘Yes I agree with you - drinking won't help :-)

p.s I thought we are just friends! work place and all..... netting more can be good.

We can have lunch sometime ...’

He replies :-

Sorry, busy day yesterday, didn't get a chance to reply.

Glad you thought we were just friends too, I just wanted to be sure.

Yes Lat’s soon..’ (a pub lunch)

then left it as that then about a month later he email me asking how I am doing and if I want to have lunch etc.. but we never got to do it, now he join my department and I see him everyday, he asked me if I wanted to have coffee I say yes so now and then we go for coffee with a lot of tensions between us.

my interest in him is clean and if he doesn’t want to get involved with me that’s perfectly OK.

I will just be happy having his company.. but I don’t know how to tell him that, in fact in the first place I didn’t want anything serious with him but somehow my friend give him an idea I wanted more when she knew i didn’t but we never talked about it with him.

How can I tell him that I am not interested in any kind of relationship but I don’t mind been friends after all whenever I stop communicating he is the one who start it and he kind of give me mix feelings, I am happy to have coffee and may be now and then lunch with him – it kind of difficult now because of the office change – in the past I never have to see him face to face but now he is in the same floor I like to keep it professional with friendly manners.

lately I find my self thinking about this a lot which is really bugging me.. I don’t have to prove my self but I sometime feel that I have too. we are not really good friends we just got started with attraction and a drunken kiss then repeted as a friendly date... fling – I am not sure what it was.

P.S I am no longer talking to that friend... there has been few back stabbing but I don’t want to be the same person so I don’t talk about her to anyone.

thanks.

I had the apportunity at another wokr drinks to talk with this guy, and to let him know that i am not interested nor have expected anything more from what it was actually there before and apologise for having girly talk with a friend who gave him that hint.

He said he was suprised then coz i never gave anything away and he now understand that so i hope it is ok.

thanks again