While this may (or may not) be a legitimate question, (since the asker has registered over 877 questions with 62,610 answers!), you shouldn't give up who you are. However, if you join with someone else, there will always be compromises , as well as natural changes you may wish to make. If the changes required are too great, the relationship isn't a good choice.
I suppose that depends on whether your "current lifestyle" involves having sex with lots of other people while your "romantic relationship" partner thinks they are the only one
This is a "it depends" type of question. Having been through this situation more than once, I ask myself the following questions.
First, is your romantic partner requesting that you change your lifestyle?
Second, is your lifestyle causing any problems with your romantic relationship?
Third, if yes to number two. Is your romantic partner aware of the potential problems that your lifestyle is causing with this relationship?
Fourth, if this romantic relationship were to continue and grow into something deeper, such as cohabitation or marriage, would your lifestyle, then, be problematic?
Depending upon how you answer each and every question will determine whether you agree or disagree with your either/proposition.
When it comes to romantic relationships and one's potentially incompatible lifestyle, either/or decision-making rubrics can fail to capture all of the critical variables that influence your choice.
I never did come up with an easy way of making a decision under conditions where my lifestyle was an issue. I just continued with both my romantic partner and with my desired lifestyle and let time and his reactions control the decision making process.
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While this may (or may not) be a legitimate question, (since the asker has registered over 877 questions with 62,610 answers!), you shouldn't give up who you are. However, if you join with someone else, there will always be compromises , as well as natural changes you may wish to make. If the changes required are too great, the relationship isn't a good choice.
I suppose that depends on whether your "current lifestyle" involves having sex with lots of other people while your "romantic relationship" partner thinks they are the only one
This is a "it depends" type of question. Having been through this situation more than once, I ask myself the following questions.
First, is your romantic partner requesting that you change your lifestyle?
Second, is your lifestyle causing any problems with your romantic relationship?
Third, if yes to number two. Is your romantic partner aware of the potential problems that your lifestyle is causing with this relationship?
Fourth, if this romantic relationship were to continue and grow into something deeper, such as cohabitation or marriage, would your lifestyle, then, be problematic?
Depending upon how you answer each and every question will determine whether you agree or disagree with your either/proposition.
When it comes to romantic relationships and one's potentially incompatible lifestyle, either/or decision-making rubrics can fail to capture all of the critical variables that influence your choice.
I never did come up with an easy way of making a decision under conditions where my lifestyle was an issue. I just continued with both my romantic partner and with my desired lifestyle and let time and his reactions control the decision making process.
Agree, mainly because romance is part of one's existence, not the key determinant for how a person should be living her/his life.