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It's normal what you are going through. You are just very shy and yeah, your past might have something to do with the way you react when it comes to relationships. But you can't and shouldn't let that get in the way of your happiness. If you are getting tired of being alone and not having a girlfriend, then do something about it. We can all give you advise and you can continue to post them here (there is nothing wrong with this) but only YOU can change the outcome of how things will be played. Look, we all have two roads to take all the time. It just depends which one you choose to take and when. And by the looks of it, the one you are walking on is not making you happy. It's ok to feel how you are feeling, I've been there and know what you are going through. Just take control of your life and of how you want it to be. By the way you are describing yourself, there are tons of gals that are interested in finding a guy that doesn't want to hurt them. You can't close yourself to any relationship just because you are scared. Go out there, be yourself and take control. You can do it and good luck.

It's nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend. It seems that u are confident that u don't want to be that guy that hurts a girl. If this is true, take ur time, and when ur ready u will know. U definitely don't want to push ur self into dating or what not just because of what others think. It should be something you honestly want to do for yourself.

It also sounds like u may have some social issues when it comes to girls. I understand that u are shy, but if u are interested in a girl u have to do something to get them to notice u. Do u wonder why so many girls end up with asses as boyfriends, its generally because these guys ask them out first. Rarely ever do shy guys get noticed, because the other guys beat him to the punch. What I'm sayin is, is that if u are interested in someone let them know, no one is a mind reader. And if u are not ready to have a girlfriend that is fine too. Its no law that says that u have to start dating at a certain time. But if it is something u want to do, I suppose u start now. U will need all the practice u can get. Because having a girlfriend is hardwork. That's if u are a nice guy and actually care about the way a girl feels.

Don't rush urself and take ur time.

P.S. Don't postpone being in a relationship because of what u think will happen. Chances are that someone may get hurt. or it may end up being a lasting relationship. But thats the thing about relationships. theres no guarantee that it will work out. But How will u know if u never take the risk?

BRUTALLY HONESTLY? You are a mess, man. I mean, you explain a whole life situation for what? Anyone can take their life and use it as an example to why a situation is the way it is, but it doesn't change how things still are, does it? Man up! How is life for you right NOW! That should be the focus! That you grew up with one parent and all that, does affect one indeed, but that is still **** talk. How you had it when you were a teenager is in the past! how people were to you before is in the past! WHAT IS STOPPING YOU RIGHT NOW! Everything is normal if you want it to be. If it wasn't normal it wouldn't exist, wouldn't it? And don't most more questions about it! You won't get the answer you wish! With honesty that is! =)

I wouldnt worry. One day the gilr of your dreams is gonna come and you're gonna be happy. Go out to the mall or some public place and make it a mission to talk to at least one girl. You may not get a date and you may find you don't like the person but you tried and got expierence. Also practice talking in the mirror. It feels stupid but just do it. You will feel more comfortable with the way you speek. also look in a mirror and make eye contact with yourself and hold it for 10 seconds. Again it feels stupid but you will capture girls in your eyes. And do that when you talk to someone too. hold eye contact for 10 seconds. Good luck! you will find someone eventually!!!

Ok. Being brutally honest, You are the 40yr. old virgin of to days society. It's either your ugly as **** or your not good with girls. Honestly, just grab a chick man. Go to a club pick up a bad girl and then make her feel special then she'll turn good and then you have a girlfriend. There you go everyoneshappy.

relies upon... working example: be brutally honest if ur buddy or something's going out and that they seem a warm mess. sugar coat the fact while telling something to assert, a three or 4 twelve months previous (there are specific issues they do no longer would desire to understand at that age). if ur girlfriends (for all u adult adult males) ask if something makes them seem undesirable or fat, merely say no.

I sent you an IM request I would rather chat with you so I can truly see what kind of person you are then read what your wrote and base it off that. I mean I read your question but I still need more info please IM me back or add me :) I'm simonesile by the way well my IM is haha

guy, you're wasting people's time here. go see a therapist and get this crap out of your system. this is not the shrink's couch man and you're full of it.

you rejected the girl who wanted to go out with you because you "heard" she had sex with your cousin. the fact is you didn't even know if it was true. and guys lie about that all the time when they want to be with a girl and she's not interested.

you're constantly making excuses and whining, whining, whining. you are deliberately creating your problems and the only way you'll get out of it is to get professional help!

its Totally FINE...I'm 21 and i've never had a grirlfriend..Were the smart ones.............we don't f*ck around with dumb young pointless love....you get an instinct when you get aquainted with a girl..and if you don't get it, don't go out with her...and alot of other people just date because they think they're cool or insecure, but it mostly is because he/she is cool and if they're seen at the mall holding hands people would think they're cool and respect them...YEAH RIGHT.....i never judge, but i have three younger sisters and observed my friends too really well, and i think its safe to say that its true....just don't start getting impatient because you're going to marry the first dumb whore that you make your girlfriend and you're going to f*ck up...and shut up about the brutally honest thing, thank you we got it!! lol....its not like anyone is dumb enough to sugarcoat their opinion to some one they don't know personally....RIGHT!!?!? LOL....were the good breed...not the 'guys' girls are always talkin about....i've only met one other guy like me and its you, nice to meet you...my name is ANthony T....

It's not UN-normal. It's not a big deal if you don't make it one.

I didn't have a girlfriend or date anyone til I was 19 and I ended up marrying my 1 st girlfriend